One shared calendar
See whose night it is at a glance, with your council’s term dates and bank holidays built in. Ask to swap a day, and both of you see the answer.
For separated parents in England and Wales
One calm plan between two homes
BothWays keeps the schedule, messages, shared costs and the children’s details in one place, with a record you can trust if things ever go to mediation or court.
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- Same view and same price for both parents
- Safety features always free
- Your family’s data stored in London
We never take sides
BothWays is built for both parents equally, because children do best when the adults around them can work things out calmly.
Same rules
Nobody can edit, delete or quietly unsend. What one parent can do, the other can do too.
Same view
No hidden read receipts and no private notes on the shared record. You both see the same calendar, messages and costs.
Same price
One plan covers the whole family. Nobody has to pay to keep up with the other.
Everything the children need, shared calmly
Messages kept on the record
Messages can’t be edited or deleted by either of you, so nobody has to argue later about what was said.
Shared costs, settled fairly
Add a cost with a photo of the receipt. Your co-parent agrees it, the split is worked out for you, and child maintenance is tracked too.
The children’s details
School, doctor, allergies and medicines in one place, kept up to date by both of you. Children never have accounts.
Court-ready records
Export a PDF set out the way family courts ask, with a code anyone can check at bothwaysforcoparents.com/verify.
A calmer way to say it
Tone check can suggest a calmer wording before you send. It never changes or blocks a message, and you can turn it off.
A journal only you can read
Write down how things went. It’s encrypted on your phone, so not even BothWays can read it.
Bring in a professional
Give a mediator or solicitor read-only access for as long as you choose. A mediator needs you both to agree.
Built to feel calm
Periwinkle for your time, apricot for your co-parent’s. Clear, quiet and easy to read.
The sealed record
A record nobody can rewrite
Every message, schedule change and cost is added to a sealed record. Each entry is locked to the one before it, and the whole chain is checked against a copy that can’t be changed. If anything were edited, it would show.
- Exports set out the way family courts ask: searchable, numbered and bookmarked
- Exact copies, never summarised or reworded
- Every export carries a code that anyone can check
Safety
Safety features are always free
If contact with your co-parent doesn’t feel safe, BothWays has tools to help, and none of them sit behind a paywall.
- Safety mode and a quick exit button
- Pause contact, and report a message without it ever being deleted
- Evidence packs with messages word for word, with exact dates and times
- Your safety settings are never shown to your co-parent
BothWays can’t respond to emergencies or contact the police for you. If you’re in danger, call 999. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free on 0808 2000 247, day or night.
Made for families in the UK
Stored in London
Your family’s messages, records and photos are held in London and protected by UK GDPR.
Council term dates
School terms and bank holidays for your area, checked against your council’s own page.
Family court rules
Exports follow the rules for court bundles in England and Wales.
No ads, no tracking
No advertising, no tracking tools, and your data is never sold or used to train AI.
One price for the whole family
Free during early access. Everything is free while BothWays is in early access. These are the planned prices. You’ll be told well before paid plans start, and nothing is charged unless you choose a plan.
Free
£0
- Shared calendar and swaps
- Messages on the sealed record
- The children’s details
- Every safety feature
- Your records, always yours to read
Family
£4.99 a month
or £49 a year. Covers both parents.
- Everything in Free
- Court-ready exports with verification codes
- Shared costs, receipts and maintenance tracking
- Tone suggestions and the private journal
Family plan free if money is tight
If you get Universal Credit, legal aid or a court fee remission, or you’re working with a domestic abuse service, you can have the Family plan for free.
Questions parents ask
Does my co-parent have to join?
No. You can set up the schedule and the children’s details on your own, then invite them when you’re ready. Messages and shared costs start once they join. Whoever joins gets exactly the same view and the same features as you.
Can messages be edited or deleted?
No, not by either parent and not by BothWays. Every message, schedule change and cost goes into a sealed record, where each entry is locked to the one before it. If anything were changed, it would show.
What does my co-parent see about me?
Your first name and the shared record: the calendar, messages, costs and the children’s details. They never see your address, email, phone number, journal, or anything about your safety settings.
Can BothWays staff read my messages?
Not by default. There are no screens that let anyone at BothWays read family messages or records. If access were ever needed, for example to fix a fault you reported, it would need a logged reason, end automatically, and show in your Access log in the app.
Where is my data kept?
Your family’s data is stored in London, on Google Cloud. Sign-in and phone notifications use Google services that can’t be held in one country, so they carry as little as possible: no children’s names, no message text and no addresses.
How much does it cost?
Nothing while BothWays is in early access. After that, a free plan stays free, and the Family plan is planned at £4.99 a month or £49 a year, covering both parents. You’ll be told well before paid plans start, and nothing is ever charged unless you choose a plan.
Does it work in Scotland or Northern Ireland?
BothWays is built around the courts and rules of England and Wales. Scotland and Northern Ireland come later.
Is BothWays on Android?
iPhone comes first. Android follows.
Is this legal advice?
No. BothWays keeps an accurate record and helps you share it, but it isn’t a law firm. For advice about your situation, speak to a solicitor or a family mediator.
Who makes BothWays?
BothWays for Coparents is made and run by an independent developer, not a company. If you need help, use Support in the app.
Less to argue about. More time for the children.
One calm plan, the same for both of you.
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